I know we haven’t formally met so – Hey, I’m Ellie, and it’s nice to virtually meet you! 🙂
I recognize that look in your eyes. Come on, you know the one I’m talking about. The one that you can fool pretty much anyone else with to lower any suspicion of not feeling well. The shield you put up to keep other’s at bay, for you feel if you were to say how you really felt, an avalanche would ensue. The one that makes you feel that you’d be letting others down for admitting that you don’t feel okay. If the look had a name, it would be fear. Not fear in the sense of being in a wimp, but the kind of fear that paralyzes you. Fear that keeps you from reaching your highest potential.
You may or may not be familiar with the George Addair quote, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other said of fear.” And really what is fear, anyway? Dictionary.com defines it as, “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined.” This definition explains impeccably well why you push off facing your fears. This is because it is a a distressing emotion aroused by evil, danger, or pain, that does not sound inviting. You do not generally want to endure danger or pain, however if you knew what would result from it, you may think twice.
Eleanor Roosevelt advised, “Do one thing a day that scares you.” Scary and fear are related, so why would Eleanor suggest this? She suggested it because once you conquer that fear, you are freeing yourself from it. Stepping outside your comfort zone is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your growth. You will feel accomplished and encouraged to keep going. Do not take prisoner to your own fears, because most of the time they are built up to be much scarier in your head, then they actually are.
Finally, if all else fails, take it from Yoda, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” Translation (for my non – Star Wars folks) : Quit while you’re ahead because you definitely do not deserve to suffer. That is no way to live and it will beget a very unhappy, bitter life. You’re braver than you know, and sometimes it takes overcoming an obstacle to show just how strong you truly are. Do not give up and never let fear win.