If you’ve ever felt insecure about something you perceived as “wrong” with yourself, you’d most likely call that thing a flaw. When I was younger, I remember being told, “Someday, you will find someone who loves you and all of your flaws.” I thought, “yeah, right, why would someone love me for my flaws?” It didn’t make much sense as a kid, but as I grew older, the meaning began to take.

I became so fixated on finding someone to love my flaws, so they could make me feel better about them that I forgot one of the most crucial steps. Learning to love and accept my entire self, including those pesky flaws. When I was younger, I found someone who loved me for everything I was, it was puppy love, but yet still a love. However, I wasn’t at a point where I too lived myself. As the saying goes, “you cannot love someone else fully unless you love and accept yourself fully. That is no easy feat, ladies and gentleman.

Needless to say, it didn’t work out. We both needed to grow up and learn to value ourselves more. When you’re young, it is easy to get caught up in the heat of it all and forget your own identity. Yes, you may choose to spend your life with someone else, which is fantastic! Congratulations, that is a MAJOR decision! However, remember not to lose yourself along the way. You were both single people with accomplishments, loved ones, and lives before you met. Don’t let that all fall to the wayside.

The right person wouldn’t make you jeopardize everything for them to keep you to themselves. No, the right person will want to assimilate into your life because they know what you value and love and want to be a part of that. You see, when you do what you love around the people you love, you’re happy. When you’re happiest, you’re your most beautiful self. Who doesn’t want to see their partner happy? Not anyone I’d want to be with anyway and neither should you! Never settle for ANYTHING that is less than you deserve.

The truth is the most precious love is sacrificial love. When a person is willing to put aside your their own desires, for someone else. This is not because they have to, but because they love the person enough to want to. That is one of the only magical acts left in this sullen world. Please protect, respect and treat it with the utmost care to keep the magic alive. After all, everyone deserves a little magic in their lifetime.