I hate to break it to you, but you are not that important. I don’t mean to be rude, but more realistic in the grand scheme of life. It never ceases to amaze me how people treat one another. I understand that in everyone’s world, they are the “star.” Sometimes as humans, we forget that just because we are the center of our world does NOT mean we are the center of others’ worlds.
I don’t mean it wrongly like you’re insignificant to the world because, of course, that is not true. However, we are not as big a deal to others as we think. People don’t notice every detail that we notice about ourselves. It is awesome you put effort into your outfit, but the only one who will truly appreciate it is you. You should do these acts of self-love for yourself; I just ask you to remember the intent behind it. These things make us feel good about ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Humans are programmed to think about our situations but not challenged to think beyond. This lack of challenge can result in others being too self-absorbed, where they react if someone threatens their little bubble. We must remember that nine times out of ten, that person made an honest mistake for various reasons you do not know. It was not personal.
Think about when you go out to a restaurant. Perhaps it is a busy night. You wait about ten minutes to be seated and another fifteen for your drink order. One comes back wrong. Before going off on the waitress or waiter, did you stop to notice that she is the only person covering not only his/her/their section but two others?
I know it is so frustrating to get an order wrong. “How hard is it to serve a soda?” Singularly serving a soda is not complicated, but multiply that by 100. Now you have 100 drink orders expected to be delivered accurately and quickly.
Next time the waitress or waiter gets something wrong, before immediately yelling, stop to put yourself in that person’s shoes. What if it was you or a loved one? How would you want someone to react? Do that. The fact is, someone made an honest mistake; do they deserve to be ridiculed for it? No. They do not. Instead, give them some grace.
My point is about more than just the food industry. Situations like these can happen in many instances. The truth is we are all human. We are all going to make mistakes. However, we have to be more forgiving of our counterparts. We know that mistakes are part of the learning process. Most people are not out to get you. Not to say life is all butterflies and rainbows. There is evil in our world today; I can’t deny that. However, pointing fingers at others has never been a solution that worked.
It would be nice to see humanity get it right for a change. We are all imperfect beings trying our best to make it through another day. We know our intentions, and most of the time, our mistakes are accidental and not intended to hurt others. Humans are the best at effing things up. However, we are better at building things back up together. We are better off trying to understand than proving someone wrong. We are better when we listen instead of speaking. We are better when we work in harmony together. We are better together.